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Hi! This is my first time posting here, and I need some advice.
I (20F) have never been in a serious relationship. Three years ago i started therapy and I've been working on myself and my self-esteem (Main reason why my dating history is very poor). I have always felt scared of dating, and it took me a while (and a lot of work) to finally understand I'm valuable and ready.
Did he lost interest? I (27F) had dinner with a guy (31M) I met on tinder, I told him a was looking only for friendships prior to that dinner (as I really wanted him to understand I am not into just sex) even thought I am actually looking for more than that. During dinner we could definitely tell we were attracted to each over. I really think she lost interest in me, after this. I really like this girl, I don't want her just for sex, I really want to be with her and treat her right, but I think I lost all my chances. I wanted to tell her the truth, face-to-face, about what was really going on that day, but she was busy, at least that's what she told me.
Last year I started to have more contact with men (I'm straight), and even had some dates. Unfortunately, I didn't like any of the guys I went on dates with, and even though I gained experience that I consider really useful, I still don't understand a lot about the dating world.
So, three days ago something really unexpected happened. One of my male friends has another friend (20M) that I have been watching from afar for a few months now. I once followed him on instagram to see what happens, but he didn't followed me back, so I did the same. Nothing happened.
A few weeks ago, I was with another friend of mine, and this guys's instagram profile appeared again in recommendations. I checked it out and decided to try again. He followed me back, and even liked an old picture from my profile. Some days go by and three days ago (Thursday) he replies to one of my stories asking if we know each other from somewhere, and we start talking. (Consider this is our first conversation, and that he doesn't know I already know who he is).
I told him that we share a friend in common, and the conversation went smoothly. I really enjoyed. We have the same age and seems like we are on the same page (we both live by ourselves, have goals in common, interests and, later, I found out we share the same idea about how relationships should be. I will amplify about this later). He asked me a lot about myself, and seemed very interested in what I was saying, I felt comfortable. So, we talked on Instagram for like an hour and he asks me if i would like to continue the conversation the next day, in person. At this point I'm screaming internally because this is the first time someone invites me so fast and so decided (Which I like), and I agree.
Friday, we met. I instantly liked him. We talked for like 4 hours until he left to go to work.
We laughed, he opened up and told me some things about his family history, I shared a little bit about mine. He was interested in my opinion, and overall I really liked talking to him. We talked about movies, music, and even a little bit about philosophy. He asked me if I ever dated someone, and turns out we both have never dated anyone. Then I said that I find relationships to be very important, because I value my life and my time, therefore I take relationships very seriously. And he said that he liked that, and that he agrees.
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It was time to leave, and he went with me to the bus stop until I got in the bus. He asked if I wanted to take a taxi to be safer, and that he could give me the money, but I say no.
Once the bus came, he gave me a big hug and then texted me to make sure I arrived home safely. Then he said thank you for the amazing evening, and invite me to have lunch with him on Monday (Tomorrow).
Thing is, we barely spoke on Saturday. He has some shitty job schedules (Basically all night and midnight, including weekends), so I thought he may be busy with that. But we just had very basic conversation: I asked him a few things to get to know him better, like the first one we had, and he responded back without asking me anything. The conversation ended with him liking my message.
We are supposed to meet tomorrow, but he hasn't text me yet. Should i be worried?
I have self sabotaged opportunities in the past, and I don't want to do that again. Even though we barely know each other, I'm starting to like him and i want to see him again.
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Do you think something happened? Is this normal? Should I say something? Did something during the date happened that i didn't notice?
Thank you!!
PS. please consider this date/conversations were in a language that is not English, so some concepts may vary.