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A guy in love will go out of his way to give and give and give without even receiving something in return. Research has shown that giving has a drastic effect on the person who gives. A man who gives openly is happy, has a positive attitude and a higher-self esteem.
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- If you’re in the early stages of dating, try not to see him more than 2-3 times a week. If he’s a too intimate too soon kind of guy he’s going to try to see you more frequently, say no! You’ll know if you’re dealing with a guy with issues if he doesn’t respect your decision not to hang out all the time.
- He doesn’t protect you. When a man is committed to a woman, he’ll go out of his way to protect her. Having protective instincts comes very naturally to him. Common ways a man will protect a woman they’re still interested in include: When you go somewhere shady or dangerous, he always tries to go with you.
- Nov 11, 2016 7 He’s a Giver. A guy in love will go out of his way to give and give and give without even receiving something in return. Research has shown that giving has a drastic effect on the person who gives. A man who gives openly is happy, has a positive attitude and a higher-self esteem.
We have all met the desperate guy. He falls right in there with the creepy stalker guy and the passive aggressive loser. That’s not to say that all desperate men are bad guys, but that they have the potential to become bad guys if they don’t start working on themselves and improving their self-esteem.
Are desperate guys worth trying out? Only if you feel deep down inside that the desperate guy is just a nice guy who is socially awkward. Even then, prepare yourself mentally for the possibility of failure because desperate guys usually don’t know a good woman when they see one.
It is easy to admit that none of us are perfect specimens of human beings, but it is just as easy to fall prey to a guy who thinks that you are just as good as any other woman and he will take any woman who will have him. And that is the jist of it. You aren’t special or unique to a desperate guy. You are just a woman who will put up with him for the time being. He knows the relationship won’t last and he makes zero real commitments towards a positive future with you.
15 Friends As Many Women As Possible
Have you ever met a guy that seems to collect women? His phone is usually packed with the names and phone numbers of women, many of whom he has only met once and has probably never called. His Facebook is also probably loaded with hundreds of women. I’m not talking about one or two hundred, but well over 400 women and their beautiful faces.
Men that collect women are super insecure and incredibly desperate for love. In fact, they are so desperate that they usually don’t see a potential mate when she is standing right in front of them. Aside from being desperate, they are also usually unfaithful. The grass is always greener on the other side and they would rather cheat on the women they have than risk losing out on what they think is “real” love.
Stay clear of the women collectors. They will grab hold of any woman they can and then let her go just as quickly.
14 No Standards
By no standards, I mean he will date anything. He is a guy with no self-esteem who will date any woman who will say yes. It doesn’t matter if she is a mean person and it doesn’t matter if she has poor hygiene. He doesn’t care as long as he is getting some.
I know a young guy like this. He started dating a real “free spirit.” His new girlfriend was on the low end of the hygiene category and she was sexually inappropriate all the time. He clung to her because he felt he couldn’t get anything better. Then she cheated on him and his standards fell even lower for the next girlfriend.
This young guy is desperate and, as a woman, I would say that anyone who dares to date him had better be prepared for his ugly past. His exes follow him around like a bad smell and would cause problems for any nice girl he might convince to date him.
13 Always Available For The Ladies
Nice guys are great. They will make time for you when they are able, but it is not at the expense of their family or their other obligations. Desperate men, however, are always available. If they already had plans, they will dump those plans for you, or any unrelated woman, just to get a chance with you. They are super accommodating and they can make you feel special, but don’t be fooled.
Not only is this guy desperate, but he will expect you to drop everything for him, too. If you don’t, he will get angry with you and may even start to stalk and harass you.
You want a guy who can say no to you and a guy who can accept a no from you. Being overly accommodating is a sure sign of danger up ahead and it is best to avoid it altogether by establishing distance between you and Mr. Always There.
12 Makes Posts Looking For Dates
I like to delete these characters from my Facebook account right away because all they are looking for is a quick and easy hookup to get their noodle wet.
The online hookup guy will friend request as many women as he possibly can. After he has made a connection with a bunch of them, he will start liking everything they post and he will go wild over all their profile pictures. Next, he will start to portray himself as this great hangout guy until, finally, he will start asking his general audience, “Hey, who wants to go hang out tonight at such and such a place?” If he has played his cards right, he will get a few responses.
Out of the responses he gets, he will privately message each woman to determine which one is serious and who he can get together with at a later date. He will take any action he can get.
11 He Sends Super Long, Emotional Messages
You know this type of guy. You just accepted his friend request on Facebook and he immediately starts sending you messages. At first he is asking questions about you, but then he switches gears and starts sending you these long, emotional messages. Somehow this total stranger has latched himself onto you and thinks you are his long lost soul mate. What is even worse is that you have this funny feeling that he is cutting and pasting these long posts from somewhere else. Maybe some of it is part of a song? Or maybe he has written these posts for other women and he is just going through the motions of attracting another woman with the same batch of overly emotional words?
It doesn’t take you long to sense all the red flags coming up and you eventually delete and block him. The guy is not only desperate, but he also has some major issues he needs to address on his own.
10 Buys Gifts As Soon As He Meets Someone
You went on a date last night with someone new. He seems like a really nice, quiet guy and so when you received a bouquet of flowers that morning, you weren’t surprised. You get that he is being super nice and trying to impress you. You call him up and thank him for the beautiful flowers. You also agree to go to the street market with him tomorrow.
Tomorrow arrives and, again, you had a great time. The only thing is he bought you a bunch of stuff and it made you feel a bit awkward. The two of you are just getting to know each other and yet you feel as though he is trying to buy your love. That is not what you want in a relationship. You call him up and explain to him how you feel.
Lo and behold, he does it again the next time the two of you go out. Now it is getting creepy and you firmly believe that this guy is trying to buy you. You back off and eventually you stop answering his phone calls.
9 After You Say No, He Asks About Your Friends
You are out skiing with your college friends and this guy, all bundled up, walks up to you and asks if you would like to go join him in the lounge for a coffee or hot cocoa. You have never seen him before, as far as you can tell, and it is kind of creepy that he is asking you for a hot drink date while you are both bundled up in layers.
You tell him no, but then he nods towards your friends. “Any of them single?” he asks you. You automatically raise an eyebrow and instinctively tell him that everyone in your party has a boyfriend. He backs off and, as you watch him, you see him approach another woman.
You did the right thing. The guy was desperate and because he asked you about your friends, he is desperate to be with anyone. You know you deserve someone who wants only you, so you head back over to your friends and enjoy the rest of your vacation.
8 He Shows Up At Your House Unannounced
It is a lazy Sunday afternoon and you just finished doing some cleaning. It is now time for you to kick back on the sofa and catch up on reading. No sooner do you open your book than someone knocks on your apartment door. You set the book down and look through the peephole. It’s some guy.
“Who is it?” you ask through the door. “It’s Roger,” he answers. Who is Roger?
In a few more minutes you learn that you had met Roger at a company picnic about two weeks ago, but you don’t remember ever telling him to just stop on over.
Eventually you open the door to talk to Roger face to face. He is interested in getting together with you. He didn’t know your number so he asked a mutual friend where you lived. For some unknown reason, he thought stopping by unannounced was a great idea.
The guy is obviously desperate to hook up with someone and, so sorry, but it won’t be you.
7 Chick Check Walkthrough
You don’t even have to interact with a guy to figure out whether or not he is desperate. All you have to do is watch his behavior.
In the night clubs, you can spot the desperate guy way easily. He is always the one who will stroll through the night club, doing a head count on available women. If he likes his odds, he will stay and hang out with his guy friends while checking out every woman in the place from head to toe. After he gets comfortable and has a drink or two, he will start approaching women, one at a time, and receive rejection after rejection. Let’s be serious. What kind of woman wants to get with a guy who is desperate enough to get with any woman?
When you see this type of desperate guy lurking about, do yourself a favor and avoid all eye contact with him.
6 Has A Hard Time With You Having Other Plans
This guy you just met calls you out of the blue and asks if you want to hang out this afternoon. You tell him that you can’t because, honestly, you made plans to spend the day with your sister and niece.
He doesn’t take it well and asks if you could cancel and spend time with him instead. What? What kind of guy would want to take away your time with your family? You tell him that is not going to happen.
Then he asks you a real doozy, “Do you think I could hang out with you and your sister? Is she single?” Uh… What?
Desperate men will try anything to weasel their way into your life or the life of one of your friends or family members. They don’t really care who it is they are hanging out with, as long as the other person is female and available.
5 Tells You You’re The Greatest Girl He’s Ever Met
“Well, now, sweetheart. Aren’t you just the sweetest girl I’ve ever met?” You roll your eyes. First off, you know you can be the meanest queen bee on the planet and, second, you certainly are not a “girl.”
Some men think that flattery will get them everywhere. While it is true that a flattering comment here and there makes you feel great, but sugary talk just isn’t your thing. It should immediately set off the red flags when a guy suddenly tells you that you are the most amazing woman he has ever met, and he has only known you for ten minutes. He sounds desperate and, more than likely, says this to any woman who will tolerate him for those full ten minutes.
He has got a bad case of low self-esteem and is obviously desperate to please you or any other woman who he thinks he might have a chance with.
4 Begs You To Give Him A Chance
You are just walking through the bar to get to your seat in the restaurant area when a guy comes up to you. He starts hitting on you pretty hard, but you just are not interested. Besides, it is starting to get late and you want to finish up this meal with your work friends and get home.
Everything you say to Mr. Lonely just seems to encourage him to hit on you even more. Finally, you let out a firm “no.” He doesn’t miss a beat and comes back with, “Oh, come on, baby. Just give me one chance. Look at me. I’m a pretty good looking guy, don’t you think?”
Almost every woman on the planet has faced this type of desperate dater. The only thing you can do is get away from him as quickly as possible. Never let him think you are interested in him and never give him your phone number.
3 Agrees With Everything You Say
It is kind of nice when someone agrees with what you believe and some guys know this. These desperate critters will agree with absolutely everything you say, no matter how wild or controversial. Why? Because they know that agreeing with you may gain them points in the dating game. They are desperate to date anyone, no matter how whacked they are, and will agree to just about every wild theory you have.
'Yes men' and men who don’t voice their real feelings make lousy dates. For one thing, it gets boring real fast when you have someone who agrees with everything you say. Second, you may be saying things that go against his moral code. He may agree with you on the surface, but he will soon harbor resentment against you and any relationship based on lies and hurt will fall apart.
Don’t fall for a guy who agrees totally with you. It is not a real relationship and it simply won’t last.
2 Talks About Settling Down On The First Date
We have all heard of the women who start talking about marriage and babies on the first date, but there are plenty of desperate men who do the same thing. For example, you agree to go on a blind date with Henry. Henry just happens to be your friend’s boyfriend’s best friend. Henry and the boyfriend think that a double date would be fun. You say yes and have a fairly nice evening at the restaurant.
Afterwards, Henry walks you out to your car. He starts talking non-stop about your future together. He talks about how great your work schedules are and all the time the two of you will be able to spend together and who is going to move into whose apartment.
It is way too much too fast. You aren’t ready to settle down and you really don’t even know that much about Henry. You quickly say goodbye when you reach your car and hurry in behind your wheel. You can’t get away from Henry fast enough.
1 Plays The Pity Me Game
I don’t know about you, but I hate the “pity me” game some people play. When it comes to attracting women, there are some truly desperate guys who will lay the “pity me” act on thick. These critters are hoping that you will take pity on them so that they can get into your life.
For example, there is a guy named Fred where you work. Everyday he is talking about how his mom or grandma died, then his dog died, and his goldfish committed suicide by jumping out of the tank. Nobody loves Fred and he is down on himself each and every moment of his life. If only he had a great woman to turn his life around. Then he would give her all he had, give her the world, and treat her like a queen. Yeah right.
Don’t date someone out of pity. If you really feel that you should help Fred out, get him a self help book or refer him to a therapist.
“He ignores me!” Here’s what it means when he seems to be avoiding you for no reason…
A guy being hot and cold is bad enough, but when he goes from calling and texting all the time and seeing you often to…nothing, it can give you some serious whiplash. It’s disappointing, confusing, and it probably makes you angry.
Why is this happening? What did you do to deserve this? Is it you? Or is he just a jerk? Why can’t he just tell you if he’s not into you anymore?
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If a man is avoiding you, he definitely has a reason, even if it seems to have come out of left field. Let’s take a look at what it means when a guy starts suddenly ignoring you.
Things May Not Be What They Seem
Before we go into everything else, I want to touch upon something important – while exceptions are rare, they do exist. I’m not saying that every man who ghosts you has unique, incredible, extenuating circumstances; some guys simply can’t be bothered.
But there are cases where a man will appear to be acting like a real S.O.B., only for you to find out that there was stuff happening behind the scenes that you weren’t aware of.
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A few years ago, I was long-distance dating a guy who stopped talking to me for more than a week. I was confused, devastated, and more than anything else, angry. He’d been flaky before, so I went straight for the assumption that he’d been ignoring me. Only to find out later that he had been in an accident and been in the hospital, in an induced coma.
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My knees gave out and I fell to the floor crying.
Obviously, this is an insane scenario; I felt like I was living in a crappy soap opera.
If a guy is suddenly ignoring you, it doesn’t mean that he is dying, that he was picked up by nasa for a special lunar mission, or anything like that. Just keep in mind that sometimes, people have good reasons for engaging in uncharacteristic behavior.
However, that doesn’t mean that you need to wait around for him. If you feel like he’s avoiding you and you’ve tried to get his attention and it hasn’t worked, then don’t insist
That’s for a few reasons.
First, the more you push, the more he will pull back, because whatever his reason is, the pressure from you won’t help. He might end up resenting you, instead.
Second, if he chooses to ignore you, then you can’t spend your time wallowing in self-pity because of it. He’s made his choice and you’re going to respect it. Now you can move on to someone who has the time to dedicate to you and will communicate his needs better.
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He’s Not Really Attracted To You
Look, sometimes things start out well enough, and they devolve into… something else entirely. This relationship may not have been what he bargained for, and he’s losing interest fast.
That may be because he’s a prick, or simply because he is a terrible communicator or feels bad telling you that he’s not actually into you, essentially. It’s a very uncomfortable situation that he doesn’t want to be in, so he never initiates it. Instead, he might just try to do the slow-fade with you, or even ghost you entirely.
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What Can You Do?
Remember that it’s not your fault that you’re not a good match, and that, really, there’s nothing you can really do about it. If he’s been ignoring you or avoiding you and you think it might be because of this, pull away and give him space to sort his feelings out.
The worst thing you can do is desperately cling to him, because that will push him further away.
He Thinks You’re Moving Too Fast
If he’s afraid of commitment, then getting serious is going to scare him straight. You may not be taking active, conscious steps towards it, but if you’ve been naturally gravitating towards an exclusive relationship, or you’ve reached any milestones that he regards as “serious” (like meeting his friends, going away on vacation together, etc.), then he might be freaking out. He wants to play the field! Have fun! Go out with the bros!
And he can’t do that if he’s with you.
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What Can You Do?
Frankly, if he’s afraid of getting serious and avoiding you because of it, there’s no real point in being with him anyway, is there? It’s clear that he doesn’t want you, he wants his no-strings-attached bachelor life.
And even if he’s willing to stick around, if it’s only half-assed, it’s that something you want? A man who is constantly torn between feeling like he hasn’t lived enough and the love for the woman who wants him?
Unless he can make peace with the fact that he is now in a committed relationship and he wants that and doesn’t feel like he’s missing out, then this doesn’t really have a future, because he’s always going to be tempted to go missing for a few days from time to time to get a taste of the life he almost had.
He’s Having A Hard Time
Something you probably know about men is that they are not excellent communicators and that they do not process their emotions very well. It’s not even their fault – it’s the way they are raised and conditioned. See, gender norms hurt everyone.
When you’re a guy and it’s been drilled into you your whole life that you can’t express weakness, fear, emotion, can’t cry, can’t tell anyone about what you are feeling or what difficulties you’re having, you end up being a pretty closed-up person.
So, when your man encounters a difficult situation at work or in his personal life, his instinct may be to retreat within himself, because he’s overwhelmed and emotional, and he can’t deal with that and you right now.
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When something is super important and all-consuming, all his focus goes there, and that means he can neglect you, either non-intentionally, or just as a mechanism to allow himself to focus on what hurts him right now.
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What Can You Do?
You can support him by leaving him alone, for the time being. I know you have emotional needs too, but right now, you may need to find another way to fulfill them, while he’s sorting himself out. It’s not always pleasant or fair, but he just doesn’t have the emotional bandwidth to meet your needs at the moment.
He’s Into Someone Else
If he’s been seeing someone else, he’s developing feelings for someone else, or he’s even slept with another woman, then he might be rightfully retreating right now, in order to sort out his feelings. He doesn’t know what he wants to do, but he knows it’s not a comfortable spot to be in and that he does not want to have this conversation with you.
So, he’s been avoiding you, either because he’s ashamed, confused, afraid, or he’s simply hoping to shake you off, so he can run into the arms of the next girl. Some men are classy like that.
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What Can You Do?
This happens all the time. It doesn’t hurt any less, but it’s a situation that is, perhaps, unavoidable. The heart wants what it wants and at the end of the day, if the guy is into someone else, you didn’t really want him with you, right? You want and deserve someone who feels about you the same way you feel about them.
He Needs Some Space
I don’t like to use the word “clingy”, but men sometimes feel women are exactly that – overly attached. Especially if you feel like he’s distancing himself, you may be clinging harder to him, without realizing. Are you calling more? Texting all day and not letting him work? Interrupting him to kiss him? Going in for a cuddle in bed even after he explained he’s too warm to be touched right now?
You’re not at fault here, but neither is he. He just needs some space, and he may be taking it by avoiding you for a while, just to get a breather. It doesn’t have to be a big deal or mean that your relationship is going to hell, just that any two people who spend too much time together can get a little sick of each other.
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What Can You Do?
The best thing you can do is to just let him be. Pull back, do your own thing, and let him be distant and ignore you for a while, if that’s what he feels he needs. Don’t reach out to him to use him as your emotional fulfillment, because that’s only going to irritate him further. Play it cool, understand his need for space, and respect it by not pushing the issue. He’ll come back after he’s enjoyed his break and he starts missing you. And boy, won’t the reunion be sweet!
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As you can see, there are numerous reasons why a man may be less chatty with you than usual, or may even be avoiding you. You don’t necessarily need to draw the worst conclusion right off the bat, but you have to remain realistic. Whatever his reasons are, pestering him won’t help the situation in any way, so don’t push, if he’s pulling back. You can wait for him to sort himself out, if you wish, but no one will blame you if you choose to simply move on.
Now in any relationship I’ve found there are 2 pivotal moments that determine if your relationship ends in heartbreak or you get to live happily ever after so it’s vitally important that you take the next step and read this right now, because at some point the man you want is going to ask himself: Is this the woman I should commit to for the long term? That answer determines everything… Do you know how men determine if a woman is girlfriend material (the type of woman he commits himself to) or if he sees you as just a fling? If not you need to read this next: The #1 Thing Men Desire In A Woman…
The second problem almost all women experience: At some point he starts to lose interest. He doesn’t call you back or he becomes emotionally closed off. He seems like he’s losing interest or pulling away – do you know what to do? If not you’re putting your relationship and the future of your love life in great danger, read this now or risk losing him forever: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…
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In summary…
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- Things May Not Be What They Seem
- He’s Not Really Attracted To You
- He Thinks You’re Moving Too Fast
- He’s Having A Hard Time
- He’s Into Someone Else
- He Needs Some Space